Figuring out your WHY for wanting to lose fat is the first step of our process. This is a foundational step that can’t be missed because when the process gets tedious and the weight is coming off as fast as you’d like you will need to look back at your why many times to encourage you and remind you the reason you’re doing this. This article will walk your through the steps to start thinking about what your why is and how to dig deep to find your reason.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY YOUR WHY
What we are talking about is your purpose for wanting to lose body fat. I truly believe we all have the underlying thought that “we want to look better naked”, right? But why is that, why does our body fat have any impact on how we feel. That’s what we are digging into. It’s ok that your body fat does have an emotional attachment to it, almost everyone’s does. This is actually a good thing. We can use it to our advantage to start to figure out the triggers to help us overcome obstacles as well as push through the hard times of fat loss.
EXAMPLES OF WHY’s
To kind of stir your thoughts for this, here are some examples of other people’s why’s:
- I had high blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar, I want to go to the doctor and not get a positive report
- As a kid I was always overweight, I forced me to be shy around other people, I no longer want to be shy
- I use a sleep apnea machine and I can’t cuddle with my wife because of it
- I’m tired of being out of control of food. I’m in control of other aspects of my life but food is all over the place.
- I used to be 130lbs and felt attractive. Now I’m 40 lbs heavier and don’t feel attractive around my husband. I want to feel sexy again.
As you can see, everyone has their own version of their why. There is no right or wrong answer. It can be as simple as I want to fit in a size 8 jeans again or as complex as my mom had cancer and we believe it was due to her excessive sugar intake and I don’t want to have those same issues.
Here is a great little formula to build out your why:
I want to loss fat because_____________.
Use the examples from above to start plugging into here.
- I want to lose fat because when I look in the mirror I don’t recognize me anymore. I want the person looking back at me to look familiar and I won’t be happy until I that person is recognizable.
QUESTIONS TO START YOUR THINKING PROCESS
- What are the reasons behind your desire to lose weight?
- What will be the consequences to your life and health if you don’t lose weight?
- What doesn’t make you feel comfortable in your own skin?
- What emotional feelings do you get when you look in the mirror?
- Are there any time bound goals you have that you need to plan for?
- If you have food binges, what triggers them? Is this something that has to do with body image?
- What about your body makes you feel grateful? How about ashamed?
WHY’S CAN CHANGE
As you start to achieve goals you might need to update your why. Maybe your initial why was to be able to fit into your wedding dress. After you achieve that, then it’s good to go back through this process to update it again. Maybe the next one is, I want to feel comfortable wearing a bikini again. Sometimes, your why might even change before you achieve the initial goal. Such as, your initial why was I want to have 6 pack abs. While you are working on that you start to realize the abs aren’t really that important, it was actually you just wanted to get a boyfriend. You got a boyfriend without the 6 pack abs and your actual why changed to I want to lose body fat because I want to stay fit in my relationship but I don’t need a 6 pack.
Spend 10 to 15 minutes thinking about your why, it might actually take longer than that.
- Turn off all the distractions in your house (phone, tv, music, etc)
- Write down all the ideas you can think of, of why you would want to lose fat
- Circle the ideas that seem to be the most important.
- Out of those ideas is there a common theme or one that just seems so much more important than the others.
Make it visible
- Put your why everywhere you feel comfortable sharing it. Can be the background on your phone, your computer, on your fridge, maybe a Facebook post, etc. You can even share it on our Facebook page if you want
- It does need to be somewhere though that you see it consistently. We need to keep it top of mind.
Start making a plan around how to start utilizing your why
- We will be having articles over the next few weeks talking about strengths and weaknesses and then discipline to help you create a plan to achieve this goal
- Put it in your Foundations Builder